Thursday – Mommy's Little Hellion (Update)

[ninanevermore]

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Today's progress report said my son did not bite anyone, pinch anyone, throw things at anyone or call anyone an ugly name.

He did, however, shove a little girl and hit someone in the head with a toy rake on the playbround. To be fair, these things were not on the list of things I asked him not to do today. They will be on tomorrow's list, however.

On the part of the report where I asked for feedback about anything good he'd done, she reported that he did, at one point, share the toy rake.

I went through the script, telling him I was dissappointed that he hit someone with a toy and that he pushed someone, but that I was very proud that he didn't bite anyone, throw anything, pinch anyone, call anyone names, and that he shared.

"Was it hard trying to be a good little boy today?" I asked him.

"Yeah," he said, sounding exhausted, "it was very hard."

I'm terrified this is beginners luck. Nothing can be this simple, can it? Just making things clear and letting him know what I expect can't be possibly be the whole anwer.

If it is, then wow. Just wow.

I will be holding my breath for the next two weeks.

Comments

holding my breath

[regatomic.livejournal.com]

there'll be relapses,it's gonna be work for everyone,..o.o

Re: holding my breath

[neanahe.livejournal.com]

She told me this. I have to do this every day, without fail, for possibly the next few years. That's going to be hard. I confess I can have the attention span of a gnat, but I can't let my failure be his downfall.

I'll have to look at this ritual in the same light as the insulin shots my mother had to learn to give me. Forgetting a dose is not allowed; he needs this stuff to get by.

[simplecity2htwn.livejournal.com]

I'll have to look at this ritual in the same light as the insulin shots my mother had to learn to give me. Forgetting a dose is not allowed; he needs this stuff to get by.

The fact that you recognize this and accept it earns you the "Good Parent" merit badge.

[neanahe.livejournal.com]

Don't hand me the badge just yet. The road to hell is paved with good intentions, and I haven't followed through yet.

Check back with me in a year to see if I've earned the badge or not.

[mugglemomjsw.livejournal.com]

Good luck!!! Funny things are now when I ask Jackson if he had a good day at school (yes, ma'am, he says) and what he did at school (he says: I didn't get in twubble!). That's a weird sentence, but you get my meaning. It's been too long of a day to re-work it... :)

[neanahe.livejournal.com]

Thank you. Don't worry, I understand what you are saying, so that makes it a damn good sentence by me. :)

I'm still going to look into finding someone to work with my son, but I'm hoping these simple steps will help in the meantime.

[drippedonpaper.livejournal.com]

I hope it continues to go well.

My most "aggressive" child is my 3rd child but the main ones she acts that way to are her siblings. She's 2 so we're working on it yet she still forgets a lot.

I'm glad it went better. It is SO hard for momma's when something is "going wrong" with their kids at school. My son gets made fun of a lot and it just tears me up since there isn't a whole lot I can do.

I know it's different yet the feeling might be a little the same, the feeling of "ultimately, I love this child but I cannot make what I need to have happen, happen."

I hope today goes well!

[noblwish.livejournal.com]

Is your child being called names? It seems kids today have forgotten the tried-and-true defense of "I know you are, but what am I?" or "I'm rubber. You're glue. Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you." My Mom had a riot at her school (including parents) which started with a simple name-calling.

[neanahe.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

The suggestion that's been made to me is that his intellect in on or above level, but his temperament is still that of a 2 or 3 year old. I understand the logic of this, but am still working on how to figure out the logistics of dealing with it. *sigh*

[basketcaselady.livejournal.com]

What I found out in raising two gifteds (one who had add) is that no matter how smart and advanced they are, emotionally they will only be their chronological age. It's easy to fall into the smart trap, and forget that at the end of the day, emotionally he's still his age.

Good luck!

[neanahe.livejournal.com]

Emotionally, he's younger than his age. He should have stopped biting a year or more ago, but he's still at it.

People are impressed when a 4 year old acts like a 10 year old, they are understanding when a 4 year old acts like a 4 year old, and they are disgusted with a 4 year old who acts like a 2 year old.

[jenelycam.livejournal.com]

*fingers and toes crossed* I really hope this works for you. ^^

[neanahe.livejournal.com]

Thank you, Dawn. :)